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According to the Actis’s report «Societal costs of alcohol use», alcohol use and abuse cost Norwegian society between 80 and 100 billion kroner per year.

Being close to someone affected by the disease of alcoholism can be demanding, frustrating, and painful. Many family members and loved ones experience feelings of powerlessness, guilt, or shame – and try to help in ways that don't always work. The disease of alcoholism can be demanding, frustrating, and painful. Many family members and loved ones experience feelings of powerlessness, guilt, or shame – and try to help in ways that don't always work.

In Alcoholics Anonymous (AA), we often say that no one can help an alcoholic until that person themselves is ready to seek help. That doesn't mean you are helpless – quite the opposite. There is support and hope, also for you.

Do you need support?

Al-Anon is an independent organization for family members and loved ones of alcoholics. There, you can meet others in the same situation and gain support and insight.

You are also very welcome at open AA meetings. As a loved one, it can be helpful to hear others' stories and get a glimpse of how alcoholism is experienced from the inside. Look for the open meetings in the group overview.You’ll find when and where the meetings are.

What is an alcoholic?

In the alcoholic's perception of reality, drinking is absolutely necessary to endure existence. The need to drink often takes priority over everything else, including family, friends, and work. It may seem impossible to help an alcoholic, but our experience is that for us alcoholics, it is helpful when someone speaks up about what they see, how they feel, and what they think, and that they are setting boundaries. This forces us to see some of the consequences of our drinking. It is precisely these consequences that can make us realize that we need help.

Is AA religious?

No, AA is not religious, but AA's 12 steps to recovery are based on spiritual principles in the sense that they focus on inner change and personal growth, rather than on religious dogmas or medical treatment.

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